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We partnered with LaTonya Yvette, author and lifestyle blogger, to talk about sex. It’s not always an easy subject to bring up, especially when it concerns low sexual desire. But the more you do it, the more confident you’ll feel discussing it.

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Having a low sex drive can make you feel ashamed, embarrassed or even confused, but you’re not alone. Madge the Vag is here to dish the dirt on lack of sexual desire and what to do when it has you down.

Originally published on Scary Mommy.

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Now’s the Time to unblush

If you think you may have hypoactive (low) sexual desire disorder, or HSDD, talking to a healthcare professional is the first step. If you’re not sure what to expect, that’s okay—we’ve got the scoop.

Your healthcare professional may ask you questions relating to your sexual desire and level of interest, but don’t feel embarrassed. You’ve got this.

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Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder

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HSDD, BFFs and you (Or, talking to your friends about hypoactive sexual desire disorder)

Let’s say you’re sitting at a table in your favorite watering hole, having a night out with your closest girlfriends. . . .

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Women speak up about their experiences with HSDD and low sexual desire.

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There’s power in numbers: speaking up about low sexual desire is the first step. And while your experience may be different from someone else’s, that doesn’t mean you have to confront it by yourself.

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  • I have had a problem with low sex drive for years. It has taken a huge toll on my marriage. We have been married for 15 yrs with 4 amazing daughters. I love my husband and do not want or desire anyone else. However, I do not desire sex at all not even self pleasuring. I have tried for years to speak to my primary care doctor they tell me it is all in my head but go talk to my obgyn. That doctor again tells me there is nothing wrong it is all in my head and that you need to go speak to a therapist. I go there and they blame it on kids, life and everything else and tell me to keep trying and eventually I will I will magically have a desire for it! Ugh so tired of everyone telling me there is nothing wrong with me. Anyone else have something similar happen? And what did you do? My husband is not so patient anymore and I am scared our marriage is not going to last much longer.
  • I have had low sexual desire for my entire life so I don't feel like I can say I've had a decrease in desire. It's still extremely frustrating. I've been married 11 years and my husband has a very high sexual desire. He would like to have sex every day. I have tried to do things to make myself more interested but I am just so burned out on feeling like there's something wrong with me. I would like to change so things would be easier with my husband but there's also part of me that thinks it can't be a medical condition if I've never really had a desire. And I just get so frustrated with the idea that I'm the one who needs to change. I would really like to be less stressed about this.
Cartoon woman keeping her low sexual desire a secret. She opens the door to transform embarrassment into empowerment.

Stop Hiding From HSDD

If you have low sexual desire, you don’t have to keep it a secret. It’s not your fault and it’s nothing to hide from. Now’s the time to transform the embarrassment into empowerment.

Let’s confront low sexual desire, together

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If your desire for sex is frustratingly lower than it used to be.
If you want help for finding out how to get it back.
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What causes HSDD (frustrating low sexual desire) in women? HSDD is believed to be the result of an imbalance of certain chemicals in the brain that are responsible for regulating sexual desire. Ongoing, frustrating low sexual desire may be HSDD, which has been recognized as a medical condition since 1987. HSDD or low sexual desire affects women of different ages, some as young as 20. HSDD is the most common female sexual dysfunction, affecting millions of women, some as young as 20. Symptoms include low sexual desire, which can cause women to avoid situations that may lead to intimacy.

Two Truths & A Myth

Scroll through to see what cards hold the truths (and a myth) about #HSDD.

Hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD) is the most common sexual female dysfunction but often goes undiagnosed. Why is that? A lot of women don’t even know HSDD exists, let alone that it’s treatable.

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Has your healthcare provider ever asked you about low sexual desire?
Has your healthcare provider ever asked you about low sexual desire?

Talk to Your Partner About HSDD

Uh oh. He’s giving you “the look” again. You know what that means. Time to think up another excuse to avoid sex.

Your sex life won’t come back if you ignore it. It’s time to stop making excuses for your low sexual desire.

Talk to your partner about HSDD

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Resources

    Medical conversations for HSDD and low female sex drive
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    HSDD screening questionnaire
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    Answer a few questions to find out if you have symptoms associated with HSDD.

    How to talk about female libido issues
    Talking to Your Partner

    It’s not easy, but it’s so important. These tips can help you have an open, honest conversation.