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I am 23 and my bf is 24. I have been with my bf for 6yrs now. At around 2 yrs ago my sex drive went so dwn. I’m never in the mood and he always is. When i say no I’m the bad one. Even when we do have sex he still wants to keep going bit I’m one and done I’m satisfied, but he’s not. I’m not driven like i was b4 and we have fought over this for a while now. How can I make it better.

Savannahjan Answered
“Hi there. 24 year old here with a 25 year old bf and we have also been together for 6 years. I haven't been on birth control in about 4 years and my libido started decreasing around 2.5 years ago. I can totally relate to your feelings. I only recently found out about HSDD and it gave me a sense of relief to know I am not alone in my feelings of confusion with my body as of the last couple of years. I used to brush it off as just being in a relationship for a long time and not needing that constant desire for sexual interaction, but after a while I realized it was most likely something more than that. I have listened to everyone asking if i'm still attracted to my bf and the answer is 100% yes. we have such a healthy relationship and he never makes me feel bad for not being in the mood. We have found healthy boundaries to please his desires while not treading over mine. This includes him masturbating to me in person or through a video for when i'm not up for sex and he is (sorry if TMI, just sharing some tips that might help others). And yes, I also let him watch regular porn, but he insists that he would rather it be me, so this is something that has worked for us to try to keep that sexual magic alive in our relationship, maybe it might help with other people whose SO's are not so understanding. I have scheduled an appt with my gynecologist for next week to talk about my low sexual desire and i'm hoping she can provide me with a definitive answer on whether I do have HSDD or not and if she can prescribe me anything to help.”
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