beyondfrustrated

“For me it's so weird orgasm is easy I still have a moderate labido but arousal is so so hard, i don't have to be turned on my clitoris just responds to touch/friction. The problem is I feel like my sexuality is fragmented because from the age of 10-18 arousal was ridiculously easy for me, I mean just a simple kissing scene would get my heart racing, tingles, throbbing, intense desire etc. and that always felt AMAZING BUT during that age range although arousal was easy I never attempted to get myself off (shame and guilt surrounding sex). THEN when I turned 18 idk it's like something shut off instantly I just couldn't get turned on anymore (I realized I didn't respond to sex scenes the way I used to at all)...this was also the year I finally tried to masturbate (I couldn't get aroused but I was still horny lol) and figured out how to get myself off, so arousal and masturbation have never been connected to me because when I figured out how to get myself to orgasm I was dealing with arousal issues. It's been 8 years and I can only weakly get aroused (not even throbbing just a tension in my clit and slight wetness no swelling tingling or any of the delicious feelings I used to feel so easily when I was younger idk what's wrong with me and I've never heard anyone describe orgasm being easy and having a labido but arousal being difficult I'm so absolutely frustrated because I know there's way more enjoyment to the sexual response and I so desperately want to feel passion and desire not just the physical pleasure...I WANT PLEASURE gah. I didn’t reach out to my doctor when I was younger because I honestly didn't know doctor's could help you with sexual dysfunction (I was young and ignorant) and I felt embarrassed by it anyways but I'm going to as soon as they start lifting restrictions and we can see our GP's again I'm tired of this it's just arousal feels so far away I haven't felt it in so long”

“Oh my this is extremely disheartening...I haven't gone to my GP yet but I will idk I hope I'll find some answers. Reading these comments I'm now going to go in with a more strengthened resolve to find answers or to be referred to a specialist that can help.”