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Siggi

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Someone Else Asked

I believe I’ve had HSDD my whole life. I am only now looking into this. My whole life I never felt sexually aroused, by either gender, even though I would have sex. I enjoy sex more with women than men, and also am more attracted to women. I much prefer being the giver, than the receiver. When my partner wants to pleasure me, I’m at a loss at what to do, how to feel, if I’m supposed to be feeling something, if this is normal, if I’m broken. I just feel nothing, emptiness when it’s my turn. And I feel ashamed and abnormal. My main question is, how did you discover HSDD and how did you talk to your partner about it, if at all? Thank you ladies!

Siggi Answered
“Honestly, I felt like you understood me, SOMEBODY understood!; for the first time in my life, so many aspects of my sex life.
Unfortunately, most people, especially men, don't understand and don't care to. Men physically experience orgasms differently, and the ONE thing I've been told over and over again? I'm too "difficult", that it isn't their fault my body is broken, and so on. A lot of us probably can't answer this for you because society doesn't find our inability or difficulty to have orgasms as an actual medical condition. This may be more appropriate for couples counseling, and could actually bring a lot of extra benefits. And, perhaps better communication between you two.”
4 weeks ago
Someone Else Asked

I am 23 and my bf is 24. I have been with my bf for 6yrs now. At around 2 yrs ago my sex drive went so dwn. I’m never in the mood and he always is. When i say no I’m the bad one. Even when we do have sex he still wants to keep going bit I’m one and done I’m satisfied, but he’s not. I’m not driven like i was b4 and we have fought over this for a while now. How can I make it better.

Siggi Answered
“So, this is toxic masculinity, and your partner's orgasms and pleasure are NOT your responsibility. Him insisting they are and guilting you for it is abusive. He's literally acting as a child, throwing a tantrum, to coerce you into sex. That's abuse and manipulation. If he can't masturbate to take care of himself AND if his orgasms are more important than you not wanting to have sex, that's gonna be trouble further down the road. Address this NOW! If he refuses to talk about it or is rude, move on. Those are the building blocks for advanced abusive tactics.”
4 weeks ago
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