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Peonie

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Someone Else Asked

I believe I’ve had HSDD my whole life. I am only now looking into this. My whole life I never felt sexually aroused, by either gender, even though I would have sex. I enjoy sex more with women than men, and also am more attracted to women. I much prefer being the giver, than the receiver. When my partner wants to pleasure me, I’m at a loss at what to do, how to feel, if I’m supposed to be feeling something, if this is normal, if I’m broken. I just feel nothing, emptiness when it’s my turn. And I feel ashamed and abnormal. My main question is, how did you discover HSDD and how did you talk to your partner about it, if at all? Thank you ladies!

Peonie Answered
“Since you've always felt this way, and never felt sexual attraction or wanted to have sex outside of a romantic relationship, you may actually be demisexual.

Obviously you'll have to look into it yourself to see if the definition fits for you. Essentially demisexuality is similar to asexuality in that you don't experience sexual arousal with strangers male or female, but unlike asexuality you can have and enjoy sex with romantic partners.

A common misconception is that asexuals and demisexuals is that you don't have romantic attraction either, but that's not usually true. Both asexuals and demisexuals experience romantic attraction which can be heteroromantic, homoromantic, biromantic, panromantic, or sometimes aromantic (meaning no romantic attraction either.)”
2 weeks ago
Someone Else Asked

Why don’t more women who have low sexual desire just ask their healthcare provider about it?

Peonie Answered
“My doctor told me unless I'm trying to have a baby she doesn't care. Obviously, I'm looking for a new obgyn now.”
2 weeks ago
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