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I believe I’ve had HSDD my whole life. I am only now looking into this. My whole life I never felt sexually aroused, by either gender, even though I would have sex. I enjoy sex more with women than men, and also am more attracted to women. I much prefer being the giver, than the receiver. When my partner wants to pleasure me, I’m at a loss at what to do, how to feel, if I’m supposed to be feeling something, if this is normal, if I’m broken. I just feel nothing, emptiness when it’s my turn. And I feel ashamed and abnormal. My main question is, how did you discover HSDD and how did you talk to your partner about it, if at all? Thank you ladies!

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  • Answered 17 hours ago
    I am so fortunate to have an amazing and very understanding partner but I just flat out tell him what I'm feeling. I tell him that I'm so frustrated that I have zero desire because I need him to know that it's not him, it's me. We've been together 18 years and it's just recently that I felt comfortable enough to share that with him. I figure that as long as I'm honest about my feelings, then at least he knows where we stand
  • Answered 8 hours ago
    Honestly, I felt like you understood me, SOMEBODY understood!; for the first time in my life, so many aspects of my sex life. Unfortunately, most people, especially men, don't understand and don't care to. Men physically experience orgasms differently, and the ONE thing I've been told over and over again? I'm too "difficult", that it isn't their fault my body is broken, and so on. A lot of us probably can't answer this for you because society doesn't find our inability or difficulty to have orgasms as an actual medical condition. This may be more appropriate for couples counseling, and could actually bring a lot of extra benefits. And, perhaps better communication between you two.
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