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Why don’t more women who have low sexual desire just ask their healthcare provider about it?

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    Answered 2 years ago
    There's a lot to unpack with this one. Many of us simply feel too embarrassed to talk about our sexual desire (or the disappearance of it) with healthcare providers. Sitting on an examining table, wearing nothing but a paper gown, or staring at the ceiling with your legs up in some stirrups? Not always conducive to piping up about your low sexual desire issues. And then, even when we do, it can sometimes feel that our problem isn't being taken seriously. That's why unblush is here. It's a place for women who are dealing with low sexual desire to share our knowledge and support one another. Get a guide for talking to your healthcare provider about low sexual desire.
  • Answered 2 years ago
    I talked with my doctor about my low libido, but I also mentioned something about my thyroid. She drew some blood, we checked my levels, and it turns out I have a thyroid issue. I'm currently taking medication for that but it has not helped my low libido issue. I have found this website somehow, and I'm going to message my doctor the conversation starter to see if we can get back to looking for a change to help with my low libido. It's not easy talking with your doctor, but it is necessary.
  • Answered 2 years ago
    I didn’t know it was a thing until I saw a video about it on scary mommy. If I had know it was an actual thing I would’ve brought it up 4 years ago. Up until today I thought it was “all in my head”... and some other factors.
  • Answered 2 years ago
    Every doctor I spoke with about it before said something along the lines of, “you’re not having sex with the right partner”. My husband is definitely the right person. The missing link is in me.
  • Answered 2 years ago
    Every doctor and gynecologist i have spoke to said there's nothing that can be done and i've been told several times its all in my head
  • Answered 2 years ago
    It can be a frustrating thing to confront. My doctor’s thought it was an aversion to sex from past trauma... but I never had fear responses or any stressful feelings when my partner would try to initiate. Just unable to get turned on, unable to really engage. (Fortunately my partner is an understanding and patient soul and has gone over a year with out sex with out complaint.... we cuddle and kiss and show intimacy other ways). They thought it was a side effect of a medicine... but being off the medicine for over a year showed no changes. I told them I read about a medicine for it. At first they said they didn’t prescribe it (I go to the VA) but I argued that they prescribe ED and libido drugs to geriatric men, and it wasn’t fair to me, a woman in her early 30s, to be the way I am with out treatment, since it takes a lot of enjoyment out of my life. They are still going through the red tape, but my doctor said she can prescribe a medicine to me soon, maybe with in the next month. Here’s hoping it works!
  • Answered 2 years ago
    I have talked to my gyno about it. I'm actually very open about it. The only thing my doctor had suggested is I use a prescription lubrication, which is extremely expensive. It's love for that to work but having low libido I don't even have the desire needed to use the lubrication. Ugh
  • Answered 1 year ago
    I did. I have no problem talking to my doctor (female obgyn) about sex... I was given testosterone cream, which did work, but like most medications it lost it's efficacy after time.
  • Answered 7 months ago
    My doctor told me unless I'm trying to have a baby she doesn't care. Obviously, I'm looking for a new obgyn now.
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