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Women speak up about their experiences with HSDD and low sexual desire.

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  • I have had a problem with low sex drive for years. It has taken a huge toll on my marriage. We have been married for 15 yrs with 4 amazing daughters. I love my husband and do not want or desire anyone else. However, I do not desire sex at all not even self pleasuring. I have tried for years to speak to my primary care doctor they tell me it is all in my head but go talk to my obgyn. That doctor again tells me there is nothing wrong it is all in my head and that you need to go speak to a therapist. I go there and they blame it on kids, life and everything else and tell me to keep trying and eventually I will I will magically have a desire for it! Ugh so tired of everyone telling me there is nothing wrong with me. Anyone else have something similar happen? And what did you do? My husband is not so patient anymore and I am scared our marriage is not going to last much longer.
    4 years ago
  • I have had low sexual desire for my entire life so I don't feel like I can say I've had a decrease in desire. It's still extremely frustrating. I've been married 11 years and my husband has a very high sexual desire. He would like to have sex every day. I have tried to do things to make myself more interested but I am just so burned out on feeling like there's something wrong with me. I would like to change so things would be easier with my husband but there's also part of me that thinks it can't be a medical condition if I've never really had a desire. And I just get so frustrated with the idea that I'm the one who needs to change. I would really like to be less stressed about this.
    4 years ago
    • Dont have any advice because I'm just finding out about this disorder myself, but hope I can be a support to others on here. I have felt like I have some serious problems for quite a while too. Never been overly sexual but definitely have seen a drop since getting off birth control the last few years. Growing up in a overly religious household and being a shy introvert made me really ashamed of my sexuality so I thought that had a lot to do with it. However, I think that I have finally found a reason which feels better! I've been in a relationship for 12 yrs and my boyfriend has a very active sexual desire when a lot of time I feel no desire. Definitely affecting our relationship and I'm worried I wont ever get better. Dont want to take medications, so it would be cool if there was a supplement or something? If anyone has any comments about other options?
      4 years ago
  • what is hsdd?

    It’s a treatable medical condition also called hypoactive sexual desire disorder. Women with HSDD have decreased sexual desire that they find frustrating. HSDD can lower your self esteem and strain your relationship. If that’s what you’re feeling, don’t feel alone or embarrassed—unblush.

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